Hello everyone! Welcome back to my blog!! This post is going to handle a more difficult subject than most, gender. Honestly, I've been pretty nervous about posting this, but I feel like I have gained a whole new perspective on this particular topic. So, let's get into it, shall we?
The big question is, does gender/sex matter? Why or why not?
First, we need to look at feminine versus masculine roles. Females tend to develop more quickly, are more nurturing, their communication develops faster, participate in more cooperative play, are relationship-oriented, look more for details, and have better fine motor skills. Whereas males or masculine roles tend to have a bigger startle response, are more violent and destructive, participate in more competitive play, have better gross motor skills, and are more spatial oriented. Of course, not every male and female fit into these categories, and lots of people think those who don't are "different". In reality, these people are atypical for their gender and not typical. People who are atypical often get labeled within the LGBTQ+ community. If they don't look or act normal in the roles of men and women, they are judged because we live in a hypersexualized society.
For example, if a father and mother notice their six-year-old boy is wanting to play with dolls in a barbie house, they would immediately be worried about him becoming gay because he is not "being boy enough" or acting like other boys his age. But that doesn't mean he's going to become gay; it just means he is atypical for his gender.
In my personal opinion, gender/sex does matter, especially within a family. Last week I talked about different gender roles in a family, and how important each one is. We need these gender roles to create an optimal family unit everyone wants to have. Coming from a religious standpoint, I know gender is essential in God's plan for us and that our gender was predetermined before coming to Earth. That being said, I do believe people struggle with having feelings for the same gender. There are many different theories as to why men are homosexual or have homosexual feelings. Sometimes they claim to be "born this way" meaning they say their sexual orientation has to do with biology. Interestingly enough, a study was done with twins, to test if this theory was actually true or not. The theory is if one of the twins is gay, then the other twin should be gay 100 percent of the time because they have the same genetics. The data should that only about 7-11% of the time was the other twin gay, showing sexual preference is not biological. Another theory is the social model these people grow up with. A lot of the time these men have poor relationships with their father and their mother tends to swoop in and smother them, giving them a different perspective and opinions of gender. A really sad but common reason for men to be homosexual is their trauma response. An article, I read said that the average age of gay men who have been sexually abused is around the age of 12. Confusing these boys about what their feelings truly mean towards the same and opposite gender. The last comes down to having free will to determine their sexual orientation.
I learned this week that some people who are homosexual do not want to have those feelings in the first place (a lot of these feelings can come from social models and trauma responses). They want nothing more than to have a family of their own and they don't understand why they feel this way. Some of them are able to overcome or identify why they feel this way. One important thing I hope you would take away from this is that people who are homosexual don't always just choose to have those feelings or even want them. Gender, no matter what you identify as, matters. And most importantly, whoever you are or what your opinion is, everyone deserves to be treated with respect and kindness.
See you next week! :)
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